When you decide not to listen to your doctor’s advice and eat whenever you want to or miss doses of critical medication, what’s the big deal? You’re only hurting yourself, right? Wrong! YOUR NONCOMPLIANCE AFFECTS EVERYONE AROUND YOU!

 

A woman living in the sandwich generation (sandwiched by needing to take care of college students and aging parents) was perplexed because her mother complained that she never visited her father. The woman’s parents were both in their eighties and somehow Stephanie found it difficult between work and immediate family commitments to visit her parents.

 

Stephanie’s father suffered from insulin-dependent Type 2 diabetes and found it difficult to walk and to see due to the onset of neuropathy and retinopathy, complications of uncontrolled diabetes. He especially felt bad when Stephanie would abruptly end a phone call needing to return to work, and forgetting to return the call.

 

One day after receiving a tongue lashing from her mother about not visiting them and her father in particular, Stephanie decided to confide in a close friend about the situation. Stephanie’s friend listened intently and explained,

 

“Stephanie, I know you well and I know how much you love your parents. I also know that you find conflict challenging. Diabetes, left uncontrolled can lead to very debilitating illnesses. I believe that the reason that you haven’t made time for your father is because you have watched him ignore advice from his doctor, refuse to monitor his glucose and eat regularly. As a result, he walks with a cane and is losing his sight. He has passed out requiring EMS to treat ailments that wouldn’t occur if he better managed his diabetes.

 

What happens when people see an accident about to happen? When two trains are barreling down the track toward one another? They look away don’t they? No one wants to watch something bad happen. And so I think you subconsciously don’t visit your parents to avoid seeing the train wreck about to happen–what will likely happen to your father if he doesn’t get serious about controlling his diabetes.”

 

This holiday season, if you don’t take care of yourself for you, do it for someone who loves you.

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